Read This If You’ve Ever Said ‘I Can’t’
What’s the one thing in life that keeps you going… and the one thing that holds you back?
For me, the thing that keeps me going is faith in a higher power – and faith in myself.
The one thing that holds me is that voice that says, “I can’t do it.”
Those two words will shut down a new idea before it even has the chance to begin. For example:
- “I can’t sing in front of anyone; I’d make a fool of myself.”
- “I can’t write a book; who would even read it?”
- “I can’t network — I never know what to say and it feels so fake.”
But what if the reasons you “can’t” do something are actually legitimate?
Like kids or a busy schedule?
How do you get past it?
By asking yourself “why?” until you reach the real problem.
For example, here’s how that looked like for me when I decided to create my first online course:
“I can’t create a course on social anxiety!”
WHY?
“Because I’m not a therapist — what if people don’t take me seriously?”
WHY?
“Because I’m new at this, and if it doesn’t go well, I’ll feel like I proved myself right — that I’m not cut out for this.”
Most of the “I cant’s” we tell ourselves are myths.
There’s almost always a way around or a way through what we think is impenetrable.
And saying “I can’t” tells your brain that that there’s “just no way around it.”
That’s called self-sabotage. An easy exit for you to give up on your dreams! Thanks, Brain!
Sometimes we do need to take a break — to breathe, to reassess, to rest. That’s valid.
But giving yourself a break isn’t the same as giving up.
Here’s how it often plays out:
You start a new project. You’re excited. Clear. Energized.
But after a few tries?
The rewards don’t come soon enough. Where’s the validation? The praise?
You wonder if you’re cut out for it. You start looking for Plan B… not even 10% into Plan A.
And before you know it, that voice shows up again: “I can’t.”
I’ve heard that voice too many times to count.
Every time a social media post gets 2 likes
Every time I feel embarrassed after sharing something real
Every time I tell someone about my dream and they nod politely… or worse, suggest a “more realistic” path
Every time someone I love encourages me to give up before I’ve even begun — because of their own fears
No, you shouldn’t!
You are not stuck, broken, or too far gone.
According to modern neuroscience, you can change your brain at any age.
You are resilient and powerful.
Every time you decide not to give up — that’s momentum.
Right now, my dream is to create things that help people do exactly that — heal, grow, and come alive again.
That’s why I made two things I’m proud of:
A children’s book that teaches kids how to stand up to bullies using martial arts and emotional wisdom
For adults – A new online course called CRUSH Social Anxiety
I would love it if you checked them out!
About CRUSH Social Anxiety
If you’ve ever:
Replayed a conversation in your head a hundred times
Avoided being seen out of fear of rejection
Shrank yourself down to avoid taking up space
Then this course is for you. If you look like this guy when you go to parties:
Then this course is for you.
CRUSH Social Anxiety is a 30-day experience where we help you rewire that “I can’t” voice at its root.
I get it, some people just like to be alone. I was one of those people!
I almost moved to a cabin in the mountains, alone, just to get away from people!
Then I tried it, and I realized that life is better lived in the company of others.
CRUSH social anxiety is not about faking confidence in social situations… it’s about understanding yourself better to build real, lasting confidence from the inside out.
It’s going to give you simple daily tools to overcome uncomfortable feelings — in your life, relationships, and work so that you can CRUSH it!
